Yes, you read that right – Mom is finally going home tomorrow Friday October 9th!!!
AFTER 84 DAYS in the hospital its time to go home and try to resume a normal life once again. The entire family is excited – but nervous at the same time.
Excited of course, because its time. Its time for her and the whole family to be back together. To start establishing a new routine. To be together again.
Concerning and nervous because – although physically mom is independent and ok, mentally she is not. She suffered from a tremendous brain injury that almost killed her – and after going thru all of that you can’t expect to have the same Carmen back, unfortunately.
Physically after a bit more recuperation – mom will be fine. She can take care of personal needs on her own, she can eat on her own, she will be able to walk and in general physically she will be fine.
Mentally she has a long way to go. Although she knows major things of her life such as who she is, who her kids are, who her immediate family is, etc…her short term memory is lost. You can sit and have a conversation with her and in 10 minutes, she won’t know what you just talked about. Or, you will be sitting having a conversation with her and then she randomly starts talking about things that don’t make sense. The doctors don’t know if and when she will recuperate. They think if she ever goes back to even be remotely close to how she was before, its going to take a long, long time. Most likely, she will never be able to work again and most likely she won’t be able to drive either because it would not be safe. The difficult part of this all is that my mom thinks she is fine – and she does not understand why everyone is telling her she can’t do things. This is where our worry comes in. She basically can’t be left alone ever – because you never know if she will decide that she’s going to drive somewhere or turn on the stove and forget to turn it off or anything like that that can cause harm. So, again, although excited that she’s coming home – we are concerned because of the mental state she is in. We are hoping that God grant’s us another miracle and that with time she is able to recuperate some of that short-term memory loss so that she’s able to be as independent as possible.
Right now the plan is that her husband will be taking care of her since he’s retired and at home. We’re not sure how that is going to work as this is a major responsibility for anyone – and he has health issues of his own. But, he will try it out and see how it works out. If it proves to be too big of a task, we will have to look at other options.
I am hoping to have my sister take some pictures of mom when she’s at home and I will try to post them here.
God bless you all – and until next time! :-)